tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-390791704606834554.post6230148871140820461..comments2023-10-25T07:09:39.969-04:00Comments on Not In Front of the Children!: Sex, Drugs, and ParenthoodUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-390791704606834554.post-29970170971538946082008-03-04T20:32:00.000-05:002008-03-04T20:32:00.000-05:00Sex and drugs. Well, my older (11 and 9) kids will...Sex and drugs. Well, my older (11 and 9) kids will have already been introduced to some of those things by now. <BR/><BR/>I've had two more children with my second husband, and when we were reading the baby-making books geared for kids, my daughter asked me if I'd ever done THAT (pointing to the picture of the cartoon woman on top of the cartoon man - there were two cats in the corner getting it on too).<BR/><BR/>I told her yes - twice with her father and twice with her step-father ;-).<BR/><BR/>The older kids' father is gay and is now in a gay relationship. Considering he had trouble with the concept of monogamy when we were married, I wouldn't be surprised if that still was an issue for him.<BR/><BR/>It will be interesting to hear his side of things, considering he takes a very very different take on when it's ok to start having sex (he started VERY VERY VERY early, and I'd started relatively late).<BR/><BR/>Then there's the issue of safer sex (there's not such thing as safe sex, and taking a pill isn't going to stop STDs. Condoms don't stop everything either.) I'll be telling my kids that every time they play, they could have to pay. Condoms do break. STDs are passed and are a permanent symbol of some one else's transgressions on you. Pregnancy is the least of my worries. It's all pretty serious, and life changing stuff. Plus, the emotional side of things. <BR/><BR/>Re drugs - I'm kind of worried about that, but not too badly. I'm more worried about tattoos and piercings. Sorry. It's my prejudice. (Ex's partner looks a bit on the creepy side ...)<BR/><BR/>Stuff I'm worried about too is that my kids might be stupid in a moment and get in a car with some one that's been drinking, might get bullied and not know what to do about it, might be manic depressive (it runs in the family). Oh there's soooo much to worry about and so little time! ;-)richgoldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05739095826557251359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-390791704606834554.post-61086170515087867362008-03-04T10:50:00.000-05:002008-03-04T10:50:00.000-05:00In my own experience, my parents sheltered the cra...In my own experience, my parents sheltered the crap out of me. For all the wonderful things they taught me about the natural world, sex, drugs and rock n roll were never in the picture. Apparently they were all so evil that it was bad mojo to even think about them. Yes, my parents <I>had</I> plenty of sex but it was never <I>talked</I> about. <BR/><BR/>I remember as a teenager (17 maybe?) asking my mom some tough questions about her experiences. She did tell me that my dad is the only person she ever slept with (although I did some math and it's clear that my sister was conceived a few motnhs before they got married). She squirmed her way out of the drugs and alchohol truths completely and the only reason I know anything about her past is because my dad was kind enough to share what little he's been told. <BR/><BR/>Molly, I understand your hesitations but I know for certain that the things you don't tell your kids, they will find out for themselves - and not likly from sources you would approve of. Better you should be the one to tell them. Better they should never have to wonder why you didn't offer them the whole truth. What they don't know can hurt them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-390791704606834554.post-62189252180562138552008-03-04T09:48:00.000-05:002008-03-04T09:48:00.000-05:00As far as the sex discussion goes, I think it shou...As far as the sex discussion goes, I think it should be fine. My mom offered to get me the pill as a teen and I'd like to think I'm realistic enough to not be so deluded as to think my kids won't have sex if I ask them not to. As for the drug thing, I'm not sure. It gets tricky because although we never were into anything hardcore (just some pot in college), the hubs is currently an addictions counselor. <BR/><BR/>How do you explain all the different types of drugs to kids? I wonder this because when I was a teen I thought marijuana was akin to heroin - both equally evil because they were illegal. Ya, I was all about the black and white back then. Hopefully my kids will have a bit more sense.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-390791704606834554.post-77451416562598029712008-03-04T09:18:00.000-05:002008-03-04T09:18:00.000-05:00Well, I am going to print your post and keep it in...Well, I am going to print your post and keep it in a file to reference when needed for the BIG sex talk with Kaylea. We have had the biology referenced talk, but not the emotions/consequences talk, yet. I will be holding off on that one for a couple of years (I think/hope!) As for the drugs talk, we have it all the time. As stupid as this may sound, within the last few months, we have started watching the A&E show Intervention. I figure she needs to see the negative consequences of using drugs and how it not only affects her but her family and friends, as well. We always talk during the commercial breaks and after the show about what happened and how the person probably started out with just experimenting with friends. Hopefully, one day she will think back to one of those episodes when she is confronted with, "oh, come one, just once won't hurt you."Jenniluhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17489729996806198486noreply@blogger.com