Friday, April 18, 2008

Daycare Rush

Well, I would love to tell you that this time away has been fruitful and glorious, but that would be a lie. Well, that is not exactly true. Ladybug has been doing better with the extra attention. We went to a wonderful birthday party today and we have had fun with friends this week.
But unfortunately, this fun was had with a big cloud of gloom and doom hanging over my head.

I remember back when I went through sorority rush. You go to all the parties, listen to the spiel, endure the endless skits and songs and sappy sisterhood talk. After each round, you make your selections and hope that those houses select you too. Then, at the end of the week, you cross your fingers, check Tri Delta and hope to God they pick you. On Bid Day you tear open your bid envelope and read your fate. Kappa Kappa Gamma, Tri Delta, or Chi Omega? Whose letters will soon be emblazoned on everything you own?

For some unlucky girls, there is no bid envelope. The houses they picked did not pick them. The have "fallen through" rush.

Well, we have fallen through daycare selection. Back in August, we did the tours and put the kids' names on the three most outstanding places in town, hoping for a spot in August 2008. Back in Nashville, you have to sign up at birth, but here, we've been told, there is not that much of a wait. We did our homework and asked around and even the centers told us it should not be a problem.

Well, wrong-o. Apparently we should have put their names on the list when we filled out their birth certificate registration, because all three childcare centers told me this week that they do not have spots for Ladybug and Sweet Pea. They have made their fall lists and are full. We can keep checking back and hope someone moves, but as of now, we have no childcare for August.

I have a job offer, but no child care. Immediately after hearing all this, I started calling everywhere else in town. Of course all the other acceptable centers are equally full and we would be put at the bottom of their lists. We are now faced with hiring a nanny, enrolling in some home-run center, or me staying home. The nanny is a possibility but logistically very difficult because at anytime one of the centers could call and say we have a spot and then we'll take it and we won't know for sure we need a nanny until mid-July, two weeks before I go back to work. The home-run center is out. I will stay home before putting them in a less than ideal situation but since I assumed we would have the kids in full-time care, I did not register them for Mother's Day Out/Preschool and now of course those spots are full as well. Hopefully our MDO can work something out, but if not my son has no preschool the year before kindergarten.



Rima said...

Oh, that does really, really suck. But I wonder if you wouldn't be able to find a good home day care until spots open up somewhere else? I have friends who take their children to a home day care center and they are very pleased with the care (as well as social and educational stimulation) they get.

Put your kids on the waiting lists because spots Do open up all the time. Take heart, things WILL work out and you WILL go back to work in the fall!

Jennifer H said...

Oh, that bites. I'm sure it will all work fingers are crossed for you.

Anonymous said...

Hey girl-

What a bummer! I dont know what to say or what the solution could possibly be. Im sure it will turn out for the best and maybe there is a way to see the best possible outcome of this situation. I guess a nanny is what you have to do for now, just in case. I wonder how much that costs compares to daycare? Maybe you be a full time tutor instead of a teacher for a year- but even so, if you stayed out one more year, would you be able to get a spot in day care for the next year?


andi said...

This does suck! I feel your pain. We struggled to get Elliot into a daycare only to pull her out of it (and another one) because we were disgusted with the quality of care she received. Then by some miracle, we got her into one of the best places in the city. Now the place has a 3 year waiting list (people are putting their names on the waiting list before even pregnant - this is insane). I'm so grateful that both kids have a spot there when I go back as it's one less thing to worry about.

I will keep my fingers crossed for you. I'm so sorry you're going through this.

Magpie said...

Argh. It's so hard to make it right.

And the weird thing? The wonderful daycare that my kid is in has slots open for 3s and 4s the fall, as do several others in the area. There's a shortage of that age kids. No slots for 2s, just the slightly older ones.

Good luck.

just jamie said...

Painful. I have had several Pre-Schools say, with a straight freakin' face, "you should have called from the delivery room."

Send 'em to me. :)